Let’s cut the bullshit: sex education is failing kids. It’s not just about condoms and STDs anymore—kids are drowning in porn, navigating hookup apps, and stumbling into toxic ideas about sex before they can even spell “consent.” Enter Elle Chase, a certified intimacy coach who’s done playing nice with outdated curricula. She’s calling for a pleasure-positive revolution, and it’s about damn time someone did.
Why Sex Ed Is Broken and How to Fix It
Chase doesn’t mince words. She sees a world where kids are bombarded with hardcore porn at 10, where “rough sex” trends on social media, and where school boards bicker over gender pronouns instead of teaching kids how to respect each other’s boundaries. The stats back her up: a 2023 study found 1 in 4 kids under 13 has seen explicit content online, and violent sexual behaviors are creeping into teen relationships like it’s just another Tuesday.
“It’s a mess out there,” Chase says, leaning into her New York grit.
“Everywhere I look, the conversation is about what should be restricted or removed. What’s missing is what people actually need—skills for building authentic relationships, confidence in their own bodies, and the understanding that pleasure and connection are vital parts of a healthy life.”
– Elle Chase
Ditching Shame for Empowerment
Chase’s big idea? Stop scaring kids about sex. Fear-based sex ed—think abstinence-only rants or STD slideshows—breeds shame, not solutions. She wants curricula that teach empathy, self-awareness, and yes, pleasure as a natural part of being human. “Sex isn’t just mechanics,” she argues. “It’s connection. It’s intimacy. Teach kids how to navigate that, and you’re setting them up for life.”
Her approach isn’t some touchy-feely pipe dream. It’s practical. She’s talking workshops on consent, role-playing tough conversations, and open talks about desire without the awkward giggles. Elle Chase has been coaching clients on this for years, helping them unlearn the baggage of bad sex ed and embrace what feels good—and right.
Porn’s Role in the Problem
Let’s not kid ourselves: porn is part of the equation. Kids aren’t just sneaking peeks at Playboy anymore; they’re mainlining Kink.com-style scenes before they hit puberty. Chase doesn’t demonize porn—she’s no prude—but she’s clear that it’s not a teacher. “Porn’s entertainment, not education,” she says. “It’s like learning to drive from Fast & Furious. You need a real guide.”
Her fix? Teach kids to think critically about what they see. Show them how porn exaggerates, how it skips the messy, human parts of sex like communication or aftercare. It’s not about banning screens; it’s about giving kids the tools to separate fantasy from reality.
Consent and Connection Over Censorship
Chase is fed up with the culture wars hijacking sex ed. While politicians argue over what’s “appropriate,” kids are left clueless about how to say no, how to ask for what they want, or how to spot a red flag. Her solution is a checklist for real-world skills:
- Consent 101: How to ask, listen, and respect boundaries.
- Emotional literacy: Naming feelings without shame.
- Body confidence: Embracing your desires, whatever they are.
- Healthy intimacy: Building trust beyond the bedroom.
“We’re not just teaching kids to avoid pregnancy or disease,” Chase insists. “We’re teaching them how to be human with each other.”
The Ripple Effect of Better Sex Ed
Chase’s vision isn’t just for teens. Parents, educators, even porn producers could learn a thing or two. Imagine a world where adults aren’t fumbling through intimacy because they were never taught how to talk about it. Chase’s work at Planned Parenthood-style programs shows it’s possible: open forums, no judgment, just real talk about what makes relationships work.
She’s already making waves. Her coaching sessions are packed with people hungry for a better way to connect. And she’s not stopping there—she’s ready to take on school boards, media outlets, anyone who’ll listen. “Sex ed isn’t just a class,” she says. “It’s a lifeline.”
What’s Next for Chase?
Chase is doubling down. She’s writing, speaking, and pushing for policies that prioritize inclusivity and pleasure-positive education. Her site, ElleChase.com, is a hub for resources, from books to workshops. She’s also open for interviews, ready to drop truth bombs on anyone who thinks sex ed is just a check-the-box subject.
So, what’s the takeaway? Sex ed needs to grow up. It’s not about shielding kids from sex—it’s about arming them with the confidence to handle it. Chase is leading the charge, and if you’re not on board, you’re part of the problem.
